In a world where people are taught what to feel and think about transitioned women, identifying good therapy is vital. So often you come across this phenomenon in therapy: you painstakingly explain what life is like and what issues you are having, and your therapist suddenly asks if you tell your lovers that you transitioned, or starts behaving like Ray Blanchard. These kinds of situations are common, and often distressing, creating therapeutic rifts that are difficult to effectively manage.
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__________________________________________________________________________________ Emotionally Remote Therapist Disorder (ERTD)
Published in: The Journal of Applied Kindred Studies in Trans-Affirming Practice and Poetic Resistance Vol 4,pp231-235.
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Classification: Interpersonal Dysfunction, Subtype: Detached Clinical Hubris, with optional specifiers of Performative Neutrality or Authoritative Misattunement.Prevalence: Higher among cis male therapists with three or more publications but fewer than one meaningful relationship with a trans client, although exact prevalence is unknown.Onset: May be rapid, especially with the co-morbid Distorted Schema Syndrome (DSS); often masked by an inflated sense of therapeutic neutrality.
Abstract
Emotionally Remote Therapist Disorder (ERTD) is an increasingly observed clinical phenomenon among practitioners in the mental health field, typically manifesting in individuals trained within emotionally reductive, protocol-driven models of care. Left unaddressed, ERTD may evolve into a more entrenched condition known as Disruptive Relational Syndrome (DRS), at which point emotional reciprocity is no longer clinically achievable and the therapeutic relationship is to be considered palliative in nature.
ERTD was first observed in the mid-20th century, though not formally recognized due to widespread institutional collusion and the mistaken belief that emotional detachment constituted "professionalism." The disorder passed largely unnoticed until clients—particularly women, queer, trans, disabled, or otherwise socially marginalised—began to report a constellation of symptoms now associated with chronic therapeutic alienation: emotional unmirroring, spontaneous feelings of dehumanisation, and repeated self-questioning in the face of clinical deadpan.
Recent years have seen a surge in documented cases, often clustered in male therapists trained between 1980 and 2010, though more contemporary cases have emerged in therapists who engage with clients primarily through conceptual abstraction, psychometric instruments, or outdated psychoanalytic texts found in dusty library annexes.
Vaccination & Early Prevention
Several programs have trialled a "therapeutic vaccination" model, wherein pre-exposure to the emotional realities of clients - via short bursts of documentary footage, excerpts of poetry, or transcribed accounts of medical trauma - is delivered during initial therapist exposure. The aim is to stimulate prefrontal empathy activation and circumvent the procedural amygdala freeze often seen in early ERTD onset.
To date, results have been disappointing. Many subjects experience a temporary warm affect followed by defensive rationalisation, commonly known as the "Reflective Rebound Effect" (RRE), in which initial empathy is recontextualized as "clinical curiosity," thereby nullifying its therapeutic potential. Though pilot programs are promising in theory, widespread implementation is hampered by institutional resistance, typically citing concerns such as "loss of clinical objectivity" or "the dangers of over-identification," terms which are rarely defined but commonly weaponised.
Notably, early research by Kindred & Kindred (2023) found that pre-session exposure to Audre Lorde's "The Uses of Anger" resulted in a 17% increase in spontaneous emotional mirroring among mildly affected therapists, though further replication is needed.
ERTD Progression and Prognosis
Stage 1: Emotionally Remote Therapist Disorder (ERTD)
ERTD typically presents with chronic abstraction, persistent failure to mentalise, and/or overreliance on procedural scripts. There appears to be a compulsive need to frame client truths through outdated psychosexual frameworks, with a marked inability to identify trans joy, embodiment, or exploration without deferring to media paradigms or toxic schema. Clients often experience affective flatness in response to emotive disclosure and report severe contextual misattunement. Affected therapists demonstrate an inability to identify power dynamics embedded in gender, race, class, or embodiment and frequently respond to structural violence with intense detachment. Theoretical orientation is consistently prioritised over client lived experience.
Stage 2: Disruptive Relational Syndrome (DRS)
When ERTD remains unacknowledged or untreated, clients begin to display signs of what researchers have called "Relational Atrophy" - a gradual withdrawal of trust, warmth, and self-expression in response to the persistent absence of attuned mirroring.
In the therapist, this coincides with the onset of Disruptive Relational Syndrome (DRS):
A full collapse of affective engagement.
Reflexive deployment of status quo narratives.
Flat-pack empathy - provided in parts, assembly not included. (Instructions unclear; emotional support left structurally unsound.)
At this stage, standard interventions become ineffective. The client-therapist dynamic must shift to palliative containment, wherein harm is gently managed until therapeutic exit can be arranged or spontaneous reflection occurs (rare). Clients are advised to reallocate emotional resources to more promising ecosystems such as digital kindreds, their loving partners, and other warm reciprocal relationships where emotional pinball is something that does not need to be explained.
Treatment Modalities
1. Intensive Poetry Exposure Therapy (IPET)
Clients or co-facilitators introduce repeated poetic stimuli into the therapeutic setting (e.g., Adrienne Rich, Audre Lorde, anonymous Tumblr posts) to gently disrupt the therapist’s cognitive schema and force engagement with emotional ambiguity.
Success Rate: Moderate in early-stage ERTD; poor in DRS cases.
Common side effects: Therapist misquotes poem during session; patient experiences secondhand embarrassment; occasional breakthrough emotional response observed (therapist may refer to this as countertransference).
Footnote: See Elliot & Kai (2022), "Sapphic Verse as Mirror Neuron Activation: A Pilot Study in Therapist Receptivity."
2. Humanisation Therapy (HT)
Structured experiential exercises designed to help the therapist encounter the client as a sovereign human being rather than a case study.
Methods include:
Encouraging genuine affective responses to disclosures of grief or identity.
Engaging in role-play as a marginalised party.
Live re-enactments of common microaggressions followed by debrief.
Outcomes: Mixed. Some therapists report "feeling a thing" for the first time in years; others deflect by changing the subject to CBT.
3. Poetic Confrontation (Off-label Use)
An unregulated technique where clients subtly reference ERTD or DRS during sessions, often through metaphor or dry academic parody. Direct confrontation may bypass resistance pathways if delivered with sufficient wit.
Example:"That sounds like a classic ERTD response."Therapist: "I'm sorry?"Client: sips tea in total silence.
See also: Fitzgerald & Moon (2024), "Metaphor as Method: Poetic Resistance in Trans-Affirming Clinical Spaces."
Diagnostic Criteria
Class A (must be present):
Contextual Misattunement
Class B (2 of 4 required for diagnosis):
Failure to mentalize.
Therapist-Centric Perspective Maintenance.
Affective flatness in response to emotive disclosure.
Interactions unaccompanied by meaningful co-regulation.
Class C (Suggests advanced stages of the disorder):
Therapist begins to experience projection and/or countertransference without insight, often framed as patient "resistance" or "difficulty engaging," despite originating from their own unacknowledged affect.
Specifiers:
With Mansplaning Compulsion
With Attachment Style Disregard
With Emotional IKEA Syndrome (requires patient to build their own support structure with missing instructions)
Co-morbidities:
Distorted Schema Syndrome (DSS)
Conclusion
ERTD, while not formally included in the DSM-5, constitutes a significant obstacle to meaningful therapeutic engagement. Though progression to DRS is theoretically preventable, systemic factors - including institutional bias, gendered hierarchy, and unchecked professional ego render early intervention unreliable, at best.
Clients affected by ERTD in therapy are encouraged to trust their instincts, cultivate laughter as resistance, and name the chasm before falling into it.
Further research is required.
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